Ethics Of Friendship

The study of the philosophy of friendship provides us with an opportunity to explore the concept of dissimulation and its vital role in friendship.

Novelist Marcel Proust believed that friendship was only bearable if we wear masks of good manners. This makes a deep and honest friendship very challenging. He believed that the greatest honesty meant acknowledging that real friendship could never really be fully given or received. Similarly, Immanuel Kant noted:

“For everyone has his weaknesses, and these must be kept hidden even from our friends… so that humanity should not be offended thereby. Even to our best friend, we must not discover ourselves as we naturally are and know ourselves to be, for that would be a nasty business” (p. 85).

Yet, some philosophers believe that when we do experience those powerful moments of truth and honesty between close friends, and completely let our guards down, it is a moment of great clarity and insight. In those honest moments, a friend becomes another self. One may feel as close to a friend as one does to oneself. Most philosophers recognize this phenomenon, including the French writer Michel de Montaigne, who described this friendship as becoming ”one soul in two bodies.”

Aristotle took it further to mean that only in friendship can we truly discover ourselves. Similarly, philosopher Giorgio Agamben shares, “The friend is not another I, but an otherness immanent in self-ness, a becoming other of the self.” Vernon adds: “It’s implying that a close friend is another part of you and that you can only fully become who you are in who they are too” (p. 87).

In a post of 250-350 words, please answer the following:

  • With two seemingly dichotomous understandings of the nature of friendship, how exactly can both conceptions be true?
  • Is a certain amount of feigning actually necessary in order to achieve a meaningful connection in a friendship?
  • What are the ethical implications of such behavior in friendship?

Opinion 5.2

Chris Traffanstedt

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Re:Module 5 DQ 2

To begin with it is important to understand that a schema is a psychological model that teaches that a person what to expect from a diversity of experiences and situations. These schemas come about through life lived out. In other words they come about through data collected from life experiences and then they are deposited in memory. This can then be used as a short cut to help navigate future situations that are the same or similar to ones we just experienced. A bias is the tendency to believe in something that is not based upon the foundational content of the subject being perceived.

Both social roles and schemas affect the formation of biases for they both bring structure to our thinking about others and events. Both flow out of our experiences. If one’s experience is one-sided they can easily form a bias against the other side, or for the side they know. Being raised and living in the South most of my life (43 or 49 years) I have seen how both social roles and schemas lead people to racism. The social structure of their families, the culture around them is so segregated from the full picture of knowledge they form biases against others based upon the color of their skin. The life they have lived (schemas) drives them to see others as outsiders and thus the bias is formed. Once the social roles and schemas are set then that person uses this shortcut to evaluate all others according to what they know.

It is often stressed (in theory and research) that the automatic thinking process has a greater effect upon biases (van Nunspect, Ellemers & Derks, 2015). Clearly when we are on autopilot we will also go back to the things we have been taught, experienced and believed. It is these deep-rooted experiences that form our automatic thinking and leads to an outlook of bias more often than not.

However, we must not think that controlled thinking is really any different for our controlled thinking is also based upon past teaching, experience and beliefs. When it comes to having great biases these experiences often shape our controlling thinking.

So how can this be stopped? First it all begins with our presuppositions. If we refuse to look at our past presuppositions then auto or controlled thinking will be biased. However, if we take truth seriously and seek to shape our thinking on it then we began to see that both automatic and controlled processes can fight the dangers of biases.

van Nunspeet, F., Ellemers, N., & Derks, B. (2015). Reducing implicit bias: How moral motivation helps people refrain from making ‘automatic’ prejudiced associations. Translational Issues In Psychological Science, 1(4), 382-391. doi:10.1037/tps0000044

Case Study: Ethical Decision Making

Read the section Course Case Study below and analyze the behavior of the counselor, as a professional, that you consider unethical or unprofessional. Write a brief summary of the questionable behavior. Substantiate the summary with reasons for your analysis.

 

Next, identify how the counselor may have been in violation of the ACA Code of Ethics. Give the number and definitions of specific violations and compare these violations to the APA ethical standards.

 

In relation to these specific violations, describe the similarities or differences in the ACA and APA ethical codes.

 

Finally, select an ethical decision-making model from those in your readings and apply the model to a minimum of one ethical dilemma you identified in the course scenario.

 

Your paper should be at least 4 pages long, not counting the title page and the reference page.

 

 

 

 

 

Course Case Study

 

 

 

 

 

Joe, a thirty-five-year-old, male mental health counselor, received a client referral, thirty-five-year-old Jill,

 

 

 

from a community counseling clinic. He began providing counseling services to her. Jill’s complaint was that

 

 

 

she was unsatisfied with her current job as a bank teller and was experiencing mild anxiety and depression.

 

 

 

Joe had been providing services to Jill for three weeks when she disclosed that she was confused about

 

 

 

her sexuality because she experienced sexual attraction toward some women. Joe immediately responded

 

 

 

to Jill with wide eyes and a shocked look. He told Jill that he was a traditional Catholic, who felt that this

 

 

 

type of feeling was immoral and wrong. He informed her that she should avoid thinking about this and pray

 

 

 

for forgiveness. He also told her that he felt uncomfortable talking about the issue any further. Jill continued

 

 

 

to talk to Joe about dealing with her family issues.

 

 

 

Joe had recently read about a new technique and immediately became excited about trying it. He explained

 

 

 

to her that he had read an article in a magazine about a new technique called rebirthing. The new technique

 

 

 

was being used in Europe to help people change their views about their relationships with their family. Joe

 

 

 

said, “It is supposed to be really effective in almost wiping out your memory of your family; it is like

 

 

 

hypnosis.” “I would really like to try it on you today, what do you think?” Jill declined his offer and continued

 

 

 

to talk about her family. Joe thought to himself that even though Jill said no, he was still going to try to

 

 

 

hypnotize her as they talked because he thought she could benefit from the technique.

 

 

 

Jill disclosed that she was raised in a traditional Asian American home with many cultural influences and

 

 

 

culture-specific rules and behavior. Jill was struggling with balancing her individualism and her cultural

 

 

 

heritage. Joe explained to her that because he was living and working in a rural community, mostly

 

 

 

consisting of people of East European descent, he could not relate to Jill’s culture and the issues with which

 

 

 

she was struggling. He apologized and explained that he was not required to study these cultural issues

 

 

 

because of his geographical location.

 

 

 

Jill moved on to talk about her depression. She began talking about feeling lonely and how it contributed to

 

 

 

her depression. During a counseling session several months later, she revealed that she was attracted to

 

 

 

Joe and would like a closer, intimate relationship with him. Joe, aware that he was also attracted to Jill,

 

 

 

talked about his feelings toward her but explained that engaging in a relationship outside the established

 

 

 

counseling relationship was unethical. He informed her that because of the mutual feelings of attraction, the

 

 

 

counseling relationship would be ineffective and that he would refer her to another counselor for continued

 

 

 

services. Jill agreed, and they terminated the counseling relationship. Later, she contacted him to continue

 

 

 

counseling and to discuss the referral. Joe agreed to meet her that evening at a restaurant and bring her

 

 

 

the referral information. That night they began an intimate sexual relationship.

 

 

 

Joe never got around to providing the referral for Jill even though he was aware of her ongoing state of

 

 

 

depression and anxiety. Joe stopped seeing Jill after a month of intimate sexual encounters. Joe enjoyed

 

 

 

the relationship but felt guilty due to the unethical nature of the relationship. Because of his continued

 

 

 

concern about Jill’s depression, Joe considered going to his current clinical supervisor to discuss the case

 

 

 

but decided against it. This was because he and his supervisor were good friends and he suspected his

 

 

 

supervisor would be hurt by knowing the real reason he had been cancelling get-togethers.

 

 

 

Joe decided to call Jill’s boss at the bank to check on her and see how she was doing. He called her boss

 

 

 

and explained that he had been counseling her for anxiety and depression and wanted to check if she was

 

feeling fine. Her boss informed Joe that Jill had quit her job and was in the county hospital undergoing

 

 

 

treatment for severe depression. Joe quickly hung up and decided not to call or visit the bank again. After

 

 

 

thinking it over, Joe decided that general counseling might not be for him. He decided to begin marriage

 

 

 

and family therapy. He ordered some business cards and advertised in the yellow pages. He thought, “After

 

 

 

all, I am a mental health counselor, and it can’t be hard to counsel a couple. You don’t need anything

 

 

 

special. I already have one degree, and that’s enough!”

 

 

 

Assignment 3 Grading Criteria
Maximum Points
Summarized the behavior you consider unethical and unprofessional in the case study.
15
Substantiated the analysis with reasons.
15
Identified, using the specific sections of the code, how the counselor may have been in violation of the ACA Code of Ethics and substantiated each with reasons.
15
Described similarities and differences between the ACA and APA codes.
15
Applied an ethical decision-making model to at least one dilemma.
20
Wrote in a clear, concise, and organized manner; demonstrated ethical scholarship in accurate representation and attribution of sources; and displayed accurate spelling, grammar, and punctuation.
20
Total:
100

 

 

 

 

How does altruism apply to psychology or psychological principles?

  • Compare the respective roles of altruism, personal and professional social responsibility, and codependency.
  • How does altruism apply to psychology or psychological principles?
  • How does altruism improve the human condition? Are there limits to altruism?
  • What are some personal and professional responsibilities related to altruism?
  • What is the future of psychology, specifically in relation to altruism, in contemporary society?

 

Format your paper consistent with APA guidelines.  A minimum of two references should be used.

 

700 words.